Sniper the Thought

The old saying that, ‘Revenge is a dish best served cold’, is without doubt, the motto of some many people, notwithstanding their religious belief. As it relates to relationships, the question is, who do you serve the cold dish of revenge?

Relationships are always dicey; they have this pattern of leaving one vulnerable. Especially if you think that you are in love with your partner. Many have taken the road of suicide at the end of a painful breakup; whether the relationship is at the friendship boat, or courtship boat, or marriage boat, its inconsequential. The ratio of the heartbreak is directly proportional to the investment don by the most hurt.

Some put in as much as eleven years of their life to a relationship that goes sour at a point and at such crossroads; they lose their identity or sense of worth. While some breakups are amicable, others simply aren’t. They leave one person without closure. 

He or she is left to wander for a very long time, what went wrong? How he/she could have done better? Lack of closure as to the demise of a sweet love gone sour is one of the worst baggage to carry and as such many people have towed lines not so palatable.

While some go to print media to bash their exes, others walk on the path of dying in silence, which sometimes lead to depression and in worst case scenario, suicide. 

But, there are these very few set of jilted lovers with unknown embedded strength. They go through all the stages of heartbreak; denial, anger, bargaining (pleading with the lover for a second chance), depression (despair) and acceptance.

At the bargaining/pleading stage, while some exhibit wild behaviours to get the ex’s attention, others may plead or send mutual acquaintance(s) to do the bidding for them. When that fails, the jilted one goes into depression. Now, the five stages are common to all scorned person, but the fifth stage has a distinction that separates the Selenas, the Jennas and the Tokes of this world from the rest.

At the acceptance stage, while some accept that there is no hope of reconciliation and as such end their life, few like the Selena Gomez, Jenna Dewan, Toke Makinwa monetise their pain. They find a very productive outlet for the immerse pain the breakup gave to them, and release songs like; Lose You To Love Me, Look At Her Now’ or write books like; Gracefully You, On Becoming

photo credit:      https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/c/cd/Selena_Gomez_2016.png/220px-Selena_Gomez_2016.png Serena Gomez is an American singer, songwriter, actress, and executive producer. She is also known for her almost a decade whirlwind romance with ex Justin Bieber who is now married to Hailey Baldwin. The breakup was as public as it could get but after much heartache, Selena chose to monetise her pain. On October 23, 2019, Gomez released “Lose You to Love Me” as the lead single from her upcoming third studio album. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selena_Gomez

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Jenna Lee Dewan, an American dancer, and actress while talking to People about her separation with Channing Tatum said:

“I was just gutted. It was so difficult for me. It was the loss of an idealistic future for myself and my life. What does that now look like for me? Where do I begin? I met him when I was 24, I didn’t know life without Chan.”

“The separation tested me in ways I hadn’t thought possible,” she continued. “I started to wonder if everything I believed in and always talked about was real. Could anyone or anything ever be trusted?”

https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/jenna-dewan-channing-tatum-new-book-gracefully-you

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Toke Makinwa is a Nigerian radio personality, television host, vlogger, lifestyle entrepreneur, and author. She released her memoir On Becoming in November 2016. The book addressed her personal struggles and the betrayal of her now ex-husband Maje Ayida. Their marriage got dissolved on the grounds that the Ayida committed adultery.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toke-Makinwa

Look at these goddesses, you will know that being beautiful, talented, ambitious isn’t a guarantee for not been dumped. I mean, these ladies are plain gorgeous and yet, they have been dumped for reasons best known to their exes. Knowing their worth, they took the high road and made lemonades out of the lemon served to them by life.

Dear reader, if you are heartbroken, perplexed and confused as to which road to thread on after being jilted, borrow a leaf form these strong women I have mentioned. Don’t allow your ex(es) to have the final say by giving in to the urge to end your life. Take the high road like the Kardashians will always do. They broadcast their emotions, failures, success for the world to see and in turn grow their income.

Snipe the thought of suicide. No ex- is worth your life. You have given him/her months, and in some cases, years of your life, why sacrifice your space on earth for his/her pleasure?

‘Trust me, if they have got the heart to hurt your body, soul, and mind, they won’t shed a tear over your corpse.’

Think smart like Selena, Jenna or Toke. Find a lucrative outlet for the pain; let the emotions fuel you into thinking big and outside the box. Your actions after being jilted directly and indirectly affect every acquaintance of yours, so don’t yield to the dark voice of suicide.

The power of your voice when you triumph on the other side is so much powerful than you can imagine. Don’t serve yourself the cold dish of revenge.

DON’T SNIPE (MUTE) YOUR VOICE VIA SUICIDE, BUT SNIPE THE THOUGHT OF SUICIDE!

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